Mother’s Day Sweetness

I have the best family and friends!

I was extremely nervous about my first Mother’s Day because well, I don’t physically have a child. Its hard for those of us who’ve had children but no evidence of them, to really feel like we are a part of this holiday. I thought about how I would react if I was wished a Happy Mother’s day from others. I knew everyone around me had no idea how to approach this. I didn’t either. It was very sad but, I managed to smile a few times thanks to my parents, sisters and husband who made it a special one anyway.

My sister and her husband took my husband and me out to brunch. A tradition around these parts it seems. I never noticed this until, of course, I too became a mother. All the children and grandchildren dressed in their Sunday-best to treat Mom to a day off her feet. The first time Moms being appreciated by their husbands while both are in awe of their child.  No cooking for Moms on this day. She is truly queen for the day.

I was reminded by my parents when they wished me a happy Mother’s Day, that I really am still a mother. Childless and all. I can’t thank my family enough for the love poured over me. The icing on the cake? My twin sister bringing me a blue orchid. Blue for Demilade. Little did she know that I had just thrown out all of the flowers from friends and family that had finally died. Something that made me very sad; and there she was with new flowers!

Still more, before I could lie down to sleep for the night, my 16 year old sister sends me this poem she wrote:

Our Precious Time”

By: Auntie Kambuza

I love the precious time we had

I love your gracious body that held

My whole being – an eight month term –

A miracle of life, a wonderful sum.

I loved the rubs, feels, and warmth.

I felt your laugh, tenderness, and joy,

The care that mommy and daddy bestowed

Maybe not face to face,

But a deep connection felt,

That’ our case.

Oh, how I miss the compassion that flowed, but

Please know I’m in glory with the Lord.

So please don’t cry, don’t be sad

Because I’m grateful for the time we had.

Forever and always – our unbreakable bond

Will overlap into the Great Beyond!

So to my lovely mama and dada too

Have a Blessed Mother’s Day.

I LOVE YOU!!

– Demilade Christian

Our Precious Time

Tags: child loss, Family, Mother's Day, Poem