Demilade Christian Nkusuwila

Saturday, March 9th, 2013. I finally gave in to my husband’s pick for a name for our son. He had been calling him Demilade for a while but, we still hadn’t agreed on his other name.

You see, we’re both African except, from different countries in Africa. I know! You’ve all heard the illogical stories about how some of us are forbidden to marry outside of our tribes, let alone, outside of the country. Families have become life time enemies for much less offenses. Luckily, our families do not subscribe to those notions. Or maybe they are just silent about it.

My husband is Nigerian. I am Zambian. We’ve both spent a considerable amount of time living away from “home.” I’ve grown up in the US. This is home, too. However, this does not mean that our traditions have escaped us. I remember arguing with my husband when he was just my boyfriend about who would name the kids. We live in America, 50/50 right? I was certain that if I wanted to name my child, a discussion would not ensue about the appropriateness of it or how these things were done back home. Wrong. Even my parents reminded me about this custom that we practice back home.

We are, however, not our parents and when the time came, my husband and I sat down like the partners we are and forged a way forward. We would both name our child. It turns out we had the same rationale for picking the name. He was to have an identity attached to his name. He would know that he was Nigerian by his name and he would know that he had a part of Zambia in him too. Most importantly, he would know that his parents believed in God and wanted his name to reflect his goodness.

We named him Oluwademilade, a Yoruba  (Nigerian) name which means God has crowned me; Christian (obvious); Nkusuwila, a Namwanga (Zambian) name meaning faithful.

So on the weekend of March 9th and 10th, I finally decided the name had a nice ring to it and we settled on the name.

We definitely did not want him to be lost in this world being misconstrued as an English Portuguese  given his last name.

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2 Responses to “Demilade Christian Nkusuwila”

  1. Akombaetwah January 3, 2014 at 5:22 pm #

    Intresting i never new this name also meant faithful nd neither was it christian bt nywe t o depnds on w@ u wnt it 2 min t oso min blivn in God nd conquerer

    • elledacosta January 3, 2014 at 10:36 pm #

      Why don’t you enlighten us and let us know what you know it to mean. I understand some Namwanga but I trust my fluent parents to know the meaning just as well. Please share.

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